Over the last few weeks the subject of priorities and finite time has arisen for me. This has sadly been brought on by a number of unexpected deaths within my sphere, albeit not too closely. Yes, I know, but this isn’t going to be one of those morbid rants about how we should embrace life and live for the day!
My reaction to these sudden demises was tempered with a week long holiday to Cornwall where I was able to get perspective from disbelief, grief and generally trying to work out what my reaction should be having not experienced a funeral since 1997. It started me thinking about my emotional intelligence report from 3 years ago which indicates that I have emotional self awareness and good empathy, but that my reality testing is potentially wanting, as is my impulse control. In this way, I have been a shoulder to cry on, but then made a complete faux pas stating “How beautiful the lilies look on the dresser.” Believe me, this is improvement!
I think if I were to carry out another EQ-i today, there would be differences and hopefully a more balanced result as I have been worked within Zest Business Coaching for many years now and had
What these losses have given me is a little more perspective, a little more appreciation and a little more gratitude. Combined with my holiday recharge I have come back to life and work with a slightly different and more positive outlook. The EI distinction between work and life is a little blurry and the question of EI a big one for me. Zest have carried out many EQ-i on a variety of staff at differing levels of seniority. It has been interesting for me as I process these reports and almost never get to meet the subject of the report. There is a long standing question of how important Emotional Intelligence is in the workplace, but maybe this recent article will give you a glimpse as it makes the point, “We would argue that success in business is a function of four things: Your IQ (how smart you are), your prior experience (including your education, work experience and training), the level of effort you put forth and your emotional intelligence.” http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/248329
The bottom line is that it is important and one takes the emotional intelligence of our being into the workplace 5 days a week (give or take), to work as a team, to manage, to communicate, to succeed, to nurture, to perform and to grow a business. DO NOT underestimate its significance. Build your team strategically taking the best of an individual’s EI and put it to use purposefully to bring out the best in them. A person with low self-actualisation and independence is unlikely to succeed if “left to it”. Supported by a team with people who are high on the interpersonal scale, they will shine and their potential can be realised. An EI profile enables you to identify the characteristics and leaning that an individual may not even acknowledge themselves and perhaps as their manager, you may not be aware, but by being informed you have the ability to nurture. Well worth the investment at £75!
So in conclusion, I am going to learn from my recent experience of demises, take stock emotionally and let it enhance my EI. Time is finite and there will always be priorities, but for me, the trick is to be emotionally grounded and aware of emotional shortcoming in order to be the best one can be.